Surviving a Lunch Job Interview

Surviving a Lunch Job Interview
Job interviews are hard. You should  be at the top of your game  regarding good communication and careful self-promotion. You should research and choose astute and insightful questions. You need to appear interested, but not overly eager, and you need to blend respect and engagement. No matter how hard a regular office interview is, being interviewed during a meal adds a layer of stress and caution. Interaction during a meal may appear less formal, but you should never think it is less ... Read more
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Is Your Stress Real or Manufactured?

Is Your Stress Real or Manufactured?
April is Stress Awareness Month (who knew?). I am a bit surprised that we need a special month to highlight stress. It seems like stress is front and center in our lives on a daily basis. In addition, there is a huge anti-stress industry out there that bombards us with options and products from massages to gyms to meditation to essential oils. There are many causes of stress — financial stress, relationship stress, and work stress are big ones. Often  stress in one area compounds ... Read more
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Is Integrity Dead?

Is Integrity Dead?
We witness more and more national events that lack integrity, that include cheating, untruths, and cover-ups. Even concepts like “fake news” and “alternative facts” have crept into our daily lexicon. We have experts denying the importance of climate change. We turn a blind eye toward starving children in Africa and other countries. We revise standards downward as opportune. What we see in the media makes us wonder if anything is real anymore. We see manufacturing ... Read more
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Expertise: Do You Really Have Any?

Expertise: Do You Really Have Any?
There’s a new book out called “The Death of Expertise: The Campaign Against Established Knowledge and Why it Matters” by Tom Nichols (2017). In it Nichols states: “These are dangerous times. Never have so many people had access to so much knowledge , and yet been so resistant to learning anything.” “That reminded me of Malcolm Gladwell’s book from a decade ago (2008) that dealt with becoming an expert. In “Outliers: The Story of ... Read more
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Don’t Create Your Own Crisis

Don’t Create Your Own Crisis
Sometimes life seems like one crisis after another. Think of the phrases we commonly use when we are under stress: spinning out of control; falling to pieces; in over my head. Most of the problems we have to deal with on a daily basis are not actual crises. They may cause some stress, but a real crisis goes beyond that. By definition, a crisis is an upset in steady state or homeostasis. During a crisis, a person’s usual coping mechanisms fail. In fact, they don’t even know how ... Read more
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Finding Authenticity at Any Age

Finding Authenticity at Any Age
It must be a terrible burden to live “in the public eye.” Every time you leave the house, your appearance is noted and scrutinized. Every wrinkle and sign of aging is documented. Popular magazines have sections devoted to catching stars without make-up, or when they are wearing sweats, or when their hair is less than perfect—when they look like most of us do on the weekends and in our daily lives.   This fits right in with our “gotcha” approach to celebrity. Given ... Read more
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It Was Your Idea. Why Is He Getting the Credit?

It Was Your Idea. Why Is He Getting the Credit?
I recently saw a cartoon about a woman sitting at a conference table with a group of men. The caption said, “When will Lisa’s suggestion be heard?” The answer was, “When Jeff repeats it.” Does that happen in your workplace? Do you ever hear yourself saying (usually quietly), Didn’t I just say that?” Would it make any difference if your boss were a woman (or vice versa)? What can you do to be more of a force at a meeting? What would it take to be ... Read more
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Wishing Won’t Make it So

Wishing Won’t Make it So
For the next few days, count the number of times you hear others use the word “wish.” “I wish I could take tomorrow off.” “I wish I had time to go to the gym.” “I wish I had this report done.” “I wish I could take a really nice vacation to Europe.” “I wish my mom would stop harping about the way I dress.” Also make note of your own use of the word “wish” as well as what you are wishing for. Do you use ... Read more
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Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.

Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.
Every year you set out a master work plan for changing your life in the next twelve months. You title this plan “New Year’s Resolutions.” The plan is ambitious, detailed,  comprehensive, and impossible. Within a week or a month, it has been abandoned. Nothing has really changed. You file it away for next January 1. Instead of going through the same motions this year, why not develop a series of 12 mini goals, goals that are practical and achievable?  For example, you know ... Read more
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Keep Hope in Your New Year

Keep Hope in Your New Year
“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come.” -Alfred Lord Tennyson As the old year ends, and a new one begins, many of us look back at the impact the past twelve months had on our lives. We may celebrate the successes, evaluate the failures, and assess progress toward our life goals. Sometimes, however, a certain year brings great personal loss — the death of a loved one, the ending or estrangement of an important relationship, the loss of a job, or a serious ... Read more
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