Do You Really Know Yourself?

Do You Really Know Yourself?
To slightly paraphrase psychologist William James (1890), “Woman has as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize her and carry an image of her in their mind.” Does that mean that our social selves differ from our “real” selves? If so, how different are they? We tend to think that when it comes to ourselves, we are experts, that we know how we will respond to a topic or react to a situation. We also believe we have some sort of “inner eye” ... Read more
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Excess Baggage

Excess Baggage
Your work day has not gone particularly well. It’s finally time to pack up to leave for home. You open your oversized messenger bag and start putting in all the annoyances and disappointments of the day. Into it goes that email from your co-worker saying she doesn’t have time to help you with that special project. And that message from your boss moving up a deadline. You add that frustrating exchange with a client, and that feeling of being left out when you saw two friends ... Read more
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Are Unfinished Tasks Making You Crazy?

Are Unfinished Tasks Making You Crazy?
Is anything worse than an unfinished task? It’s like a little leprechaun that sits on your shoulder day and night whispering a reminder that you should be doing it, that it still needs to be done. You try creative procrastination where you complete a less onerous task—go to the gym, pay bills, or handle a conference call. That makes you feel slightly better—at least you have accomplished something. But the leprechaun is still there. The longer you put it off, the harder it seems to ... Read more
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Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace

Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace
It’s extremely challenging—and all too common—to work in an environment where the tone is set on a daily basis by the boss’s mood. Most of us have been in work situations where we know when the best time to approach our supervisors is—when they are more likely to say yes, give helpful feedback, or respond positively. We also know when to stay away from them, tiptoe around their office, and remain invisible until they come out of their funk. We are all human and it’s impossible to expect ... Read more
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Building Your Power Base at Work

Building Your Power Base at Work
There are several factors that determine your power potential at work. These include relevance, visibility, decision-making ability, and power perks. Keep in mind, the goal should be “power to,” not “power over.” Does Your Job Have Relevance? Most of us begin our careers in entry level positions. While that may be expected, don’t assume that an entry level job can’t be relevant, or that an entry level job can’t lead to job progression. Begin by ... Read more
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Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?

Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?
Katie Ledecky just won her fourth gold medal at the Olympics. Before the games, she was asked what her goals were, and she calmly and, with conviction and confidence, said her goal was to win four golds. It didn’t even sound like much of a stretch goal when Ledecky said it, and she seemed to have no trouble achieving what she set out to do. While very few people will ever be Olympians, we each can be more successful in our own lives and in our work environments. Sometimes all it takes ... Read more
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We Can Learn Diversity Tolerance From Millennials

We Can Learn Diversity Tolerance From Millennials
Sometimes when I’m watching a political program such as the Presidential debates or the morning talk shows, I wonder what young people are thinking regarding the tolerance level of our national leaders. It’s not just the big issues like building a wall or banning certain groups from coming to our country. It goes deeper than that. It is a constant pointing out of differences. it may be religion (for example, the “Bernie Sanders is Jewish” email exchange that created ... Read more
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Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career?

Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career?
We are all subject to boundaries of many types—geographic boundaries, legal boundaries, various rules and regulations, and the boundaries of good taste. All of these are essential to a well-functioning society. There are other boundaries, though, that are not essential, nor even useful. Many of these are self-imposed. Think, for a moment, about personal boundaries you have erected for yourself. Do they help or hinder you?  Do they have a positive effect, or are they limiting? Sometimes we ... Read more
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The Politics of Grief

The Politics of Grief
In 1955, British anthropologist Geoffrey Gorer coined the phrase “pornography of death,” one aspect of which is using death to sell movies, magazines, and other products. It is an exploitation of personal loss and grief. It generally includes horrendous pictures of tragedy and violent death and often is accompanied by pictures of an individual’s intense reaction to seeing or learning about the loss of the loved one. The first night of the Republican National Convention ... Read more
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Women in Power Need a Man Behind Them

Women in Power Need a Man Behind Them
Former Congresswoman Pat Schroeder once noted that the US needs to get comfortable with women in power. In the past several decades, some progress has been made with that level of comfort. We have watched more women become CEOs of mega corporations like IBM, Pepsico and General Motors, and more women have become elected officials and have been appointed to high ranking political positions. Nancy Pelosi served as Speaker of the House of Representatives from 2007 to 2011, and is now the ... Read more
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