Power and Sexual Misconduct

Power and Sexual Misconduct
Today the media is filled with pundits talking about sexual misconduct. Examples drawn from Capitol Hill include Roy Moore (Senate candidate from Alabama), Al Franken (Senator from Minnesota), past Presidents Bill Clinton and George H. W. Bush, and current President Donald Trump. Former Congressman Anthony Weiner recently started a 21-month prison sentence for sexting with a minor. We also watched Fox News terminate CEO Roger Ailes and political commentator Bill O’Reilly for their ... Read more
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How Useful is Rethinking?

How Useful is Rethinking?
You’ve been the lead on a big project. You inspired and encouraged your team. You planned carefully and stayed within budget. You’ve tried to be a big thinker while paying attention to details. All seems to be in order for the final presentation, but you have an uneasy feeling that something isn’t quite right. Are you just tired, or is there really something you missed? You and the team are anxious to have the project finished and on your boss’ desk, You don’t ... Read more
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Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?

Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?
You’re a networking whiz. You have “likes” and followers galore—Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, even Pinterest. Everyone knows you, everyone that is except for colleagues throughout your organization or professional field. You remember them. They are the ones who identify the up-and-coming talent, and who make decisions about promotions and opportunities for growth and advancement. They don’t spend their time trolling the web or evaluating personal posts of ... Read more
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Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak

Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak
You are sitting in an all staff meeting. You know business has been slow, and you are worried about your job. The CEO begins ok, but them he starts talking about the need for furloughs. Each staff will have to take two weeks of unpaid leave. He emphasizes that you will have flexibility in “choosing your time off.” He makes it sound like a vacation. He doesn’t apologize or acknowledge that you are giving up a half month’s salary. You are happy you still have a job, ... Read more
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I’m Really an Imposter

I’m Really an Imposter
Scenario One The boss asks you to attend a meeting in her place. At first, you were pleased, but as the meeting room fills up, you realize that you are the youngest and least experienced person there. You’re an impostor. Scenario Two You spent years finishing your professional degree as a therapist. You landed the agency job you wanted, and now you are sitting across from a very troubled client. All of a sudden, you have that nagging thought that you’re not qualified to be a ... Read more
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Do You Really Know Yourself?

Do You Really Know Yourself?
To slightly paraphrase psychologist William James (1890), “Woman has as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize her and carry an image of her in their mind.” Does that mean that our social selves differ from our “real” selves? If so, how different are they? We tend to think that when it comes to ourselves, we are experts, that we know how we will respond to a topic or react to a situation. We also believe we have some sort of “inner eye” ... Read more
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Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace

Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace
It’s extremely challenging—and all too common—to work in an environment where the tone is set on a daily basis by the boss’s mood. Most of us have been in work situations where we know when the best time to approach our supervisors is—when they are more likely to say yes, give helpful feedback, or respond positively. We also know when to stay away from them, tiptoe around their office, and remain invisible until they come out of their funk. We are all human and it’s impossible to expect ... Read more
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The Politics of Grief

The Politics of Grief
In 1955, British anthropologist Geoffrey Gorer coined the phrase “pornography of death,” one aspect of which is using death to sell movies, magazines, and other products. It is an exploitation of personal loss and grief. It generally includes horrendous pictures of tragedy and violent death and often is accompanied by pictures of an individual’s intense reaction to seeing or learning about the loss of the loved one. The first night of the Republican National Convention ... Read more
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Can You Hear What I Hear?

Can You Hear What I Hear?
The first time you heard your recorded voice, you were probably a bit surprised. Perhaps your voice was softer or louder than you expected, or you sounded tentative, or little girl-like, or shrill.  Maybe you spoke rapidly or found that you dropped the “ing” on words. Or you used fillers like “um,” or your accent was more pronounced than you realized? In addition to volume and tone. what you say is as important as how you say it. Since most of us are creatures of ... Read more
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Optics and Alcohol

Optics and Alcohol
Recently, a local newspaper had a special section on charity events. The majority of the events reported were fund raising galas. Looking at the newspaper page as a whole, several things jumped out. First, was that most of the pictures had attractive young women in them. Often there was a man in the center of the photograph with his arms around young women pulled close to his body. The caption for each picture could have been “Senator So-and-So and his girls,” or “Big Boss ... Read more
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