Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?

Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?
Do you have a different personality at work than you have when you are at home?  Would your work colleagues fail to recognize you on weekends? I don’t simply mean what you wear or a lack of make-up, but are you nicer, more fun, calmer, or more energetic on Saturdays and Sundays? If so, why can’t you carry those positive weekend personality traits over into the work week? What causes you to transform from the real you to the work you, to slip into your work persona, every Monday? ... Read more
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Workplace Adulthood

Workplace Adulthood
There are many old sayings about indicators of adult behavior:  taking responsibility for your actions (or inactions), pulling your own weight at home and work, being able to carry money (or a debit card in today’s world) without spending it, or giving back to your community. Your family probably had other phrases that you heard over and over again as you grew up. Without realizing it, you more than likely internalized many of them, and they helped form your character. Now you have a ... Read more
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Your Job is Hard Enough

Your Job is Hard Enough
Almost every office has an informal caretaker. I don’t mean the evening cleaning service or the executive assistant who manages the work life of the boss. What I am referring to is the person (most likely a woman) who oversees non-work issues and activities. This person may volunteer to bake or bring in refreshments for office celebrations. She may organize purchasing gifts, hanging decorations, and being certain everyone else has a good time. If someone misses the party, you can be ... Read more
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Being Called “Young Lady” is Not a Compliment

Being Called “Young Lady” is Not a Compliment
Recently, while trying to make a point, a male newscaster referred to his female counterpart as “young lady.” While used in a joking tone, it sounded like a verbal pat on the head, a condescension, a sexist put down. It gave the impression that he knew what he was talking about, but he had to tolerate her input, however misinformed it was. The following day a man at my bank held the door for an older woman. He said, “Come right in, young lady,” despite the obvious ... Read more
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Silencing Women in the Workplace

Silencing Women in the Workplace
We all know the importance of speaking up when we witness injustice, bullying, or unfairness. We also know the importance of being a valued member of a work team and contributing our ideas and efforts. Both are easier said than done, the second especially difficult when a woman works in a male-dominated setting. A certain type of sexism based on credibility seems to begin in the classroom. In grade school, little girls are anxious to raise their hands and participate. As they get into ... Read more
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Don’t Let Success be a Stumbling Block

Don’t Let Success be a Stumbling Block
You’ve been working on a big project for months. Despite setbacks, surprises, and some staff turnover, you are finally done. You know it’s a success. Even the big boss has acknowledged your efforts, and numerous coworkers have congratulated you. You feel like you’ve done double duty for months, and you can’t wait for things to return to the pre-project level. You take a week off and when you come back, people seem to have forgotten that you were the workplace hero ... Read more
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Are You Really Asking for Feedback?

Are You Really Asking for Feedback?
One of the criticisms that we hear repeatedly is that the millennial generation wants constant feedback. Frequently, an accompanying statement is that they can’t handle criticism. So what are they really looking for? Praise? Direction? Attention? Mentoring? Access? Clarity? Context? Validation? All of these? Something else? While generalizing about any group is always dangerous, are there some commonalities that can be identified? We know that those in the younger workforce tend to be ... Read more
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Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?

Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?
You’re a networking whiz. You have “likes” and followers galore—Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, even Pinterest. Everyone knows you, everyone that is except for colleagues throughout your organization or professional field. You remember them. They are the ones who identify the up-and-coming talent, and who make decisions about promotions and opportunities for growth and advancement. They don’t spend their time trolling the web or evaluating personal posts of ... Read more
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Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career

Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career
We are all subject to boundaries of many types—geographic boundaries, legal boundaries, various rules and regulations, and the boundaries of good taste. All of these are essential to a well-functioning society. There are other boundaries, though, that are not essential, nor even useful. Many of these are self-imposed. Think, for a moment, about personal boundaries you have erected for yourself. Do they help or hinder you?  Do they have a positive effect, or are they limiting? Sometimes we ... Read more
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Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak

Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak
You are sitting in an all staff meeting. You know business has been slow, and you are worried about your job. The CEO begins ok, but them he starts talking about the need for furloughs. Each staff will have to take two weeks of unpaid leave. He emphasizes that you will have flexibility in “choosing your time off.” He makes it sound like a vacation. He doesn’t apologize or acknowledge that you are giving up a half month’s salary. You are happy you still have a job, ... Read more
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