Is Your Stress Real or Manufactured?

Is Your Stress Real or Manufactured?
April is Stress Awareness Month (who knew?). I am a bit surprised that we need a special month to highlight stress. It seems like stress is front and center in our lives on a daily basis. In addition, there is a huge anti-stress industry out there that bombards us with options and products from massages to gyms to meditation to essential oils. There are many causes of stress — financial stress, relationship stress, and work stress are big ones. Often  stress in one area compounds ... Read more
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Is Integrity Dead?

Is Integrity Dead?
We witness more and more national events that lack integrity, that include cheating, untruths, and cover-ups. Even concepts like “fake news” and “alternative facts” have crept into our daily lexicon. We have experts denying the importance of climate change. We turn a blind eye toward starving children in Africa and other countries. We revise standards downward as opportune. What we see in the media makes us wonder if anything is real anymore. We see manufacturing ... Read more
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Don’t Create Your Own Crisis

Don’t Create Your Own Crisis
Sometimes life seems like one crisis after another. Think of the phrases we commonly use when we are under stress: spinning out of control; falling to pieces; in over my head. Most of the problems we have to deal with on a daily basis are not actual crises. They may cause some stress, but a real crisis goes beyond that. By definition, a crisis is an upset in steady state or homeostasis. During a crisis, a person’s usual coping mechanisms fail. In fact, they don’t even know how ... Read more
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It Was Your Idea. Why Is He Getting the Credit?

It Was Your Idea. Why Is He Getting the Credit?
I recently saw a cartoon about a woman sitting at a conference table with a group of men. The caption said, “When will Lisa’s suggestion be heard?” The answer was, “When Jeff repeats it.” Does that happen in your workplace? Do you ever hear yourself saying (usually quietly), Didn’t I just say that?” Would it make any difference if your boss were a woman (or vice versa)? What can you do to be more of a force at a meeting? What would it take to be ... Read more
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Wishing Won’t Make it So

Wishing Won’t Make it So
For the next few days, count the number of times you hear others use the word “wish.” “I wish I could take tomorrow off.” “I wish I had time to go to the gym.” “I wish I had this report done.” “I wish I could take a really nice vacation to Europe.” “I wish my mom would stop harping about the way I dress.” Also make note of your own use of the word “wish” as well as what you are wishing for. Do you use ... Read more
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Joining a Board of Directors (Part 2)

Joining a Board of Directors (Part 2)
You finally were asked to serve on a board of directors for your favorite cause. You are excited to have the opportunity, and you want to do a good job. What do you need to know and do to stand out. First of all, recognize that a board does not manage the day-to-day activities of the organization. That is the job of the staff. The Board’s role is governance (setting overall direction), fiscal oversight (are the donations being used for the proper purpose) and evaluating the executive. ... Read more
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Joining a Board May Advance Your Career (Part 1)

Joining a Board May Advance Your Career (Part 1)
Many women volunteer for good causes. Perhaps you belong to a group that raises funds for a local food bank or women’s center. Maybe you help organize the winter coat collection for those in need, or head the group that will run in a mini-marathon to support cancer research. You may serve on a committee at your child’s school or help send packages to those serving in the military. There is no shortage of needed participation. Volunteer service is important to your career. When ... Read more
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Ten Interview Questions that Might Surprise You

Ten Interview Questions that Might Surprise You
If you are on the market for a new job, you have probably thought about, discussed with friends, and rehearsed answers to probable interview questions. You know the routine: What’s your greatest strength? Answer: I’m a hard worker. Or, I’m a team player. Or, I’m loyal. Or, choose any other of the usual cliches. What’s your greatest weakness?  Answer: I tend toward being a perfectionist. Or, some people think I’m a bit of a workaholic.  Or, I don’t ... Read more
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Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?

Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?
Do you have a different personality at work than you have when you are at home?  Would your work colleagues fail to recognize you on weekends? I don’t simply mean what you wear or a lack of make-up, but are you nicer, more fun, calmer, or more energetic on Saturdays and Sundays? If so, why can’t you carry those positive weekend personality traits over into the work week? What causes you to transform from the real you to the work you, to slip into your work persona, every Monday? ... Read more
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Workplace Adulthood

Workplace Adulthood
There are many old sayings about indicators of adult behavior:  taking responsibility for your actions (or inactions), pulling your own weight at home and work, being able to carry money (or a debit card in today’s world) without spending it, or giving back to your community. Your family probably had other phrases that you heard over and over again as you grew up. Without realizing it, you more than likely internalized many of them, and they helped form your character. Now you have a ... Read more
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