Do You Really Know Yourself?

Do You Really Know Yourself?
To slightly paraphrase psychologist William James (1890), “Woman has as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize her and carry an image of her in their mind.” Does that mean that our social selves differ from our “real” selves? If so, how different are they? We tend to think that when it comes to ourselves, we are experts, that we know how we will respond to a topic or react to a situation. We also believe we have some sort of “inner eye” ... Read more
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Excess Baggage

Excess Baggage
Your work day has not gone particularly well. It’s finally time to pack up to leave for home. You open your oversized messenger bag and start putting in all the annoyances and disappointments of the day. Into it goes that email from your co-worker saying she doesn’t have time to help you with that special project. And that message from your boss moving up a deadline. You add that frustrating exchange with a client, and that feeling of being left out when you saw two friends ... Read more
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Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace

Moody Judy and the Terrible Workplace
It’s extremely challenging—and all too common—to work in an environment where the tone is set on a daily basis by the boss’s mood. Most of us have been in work situations where we know when the best time to approach our supervisors is—when they are more likely to say yes, give helpful feedback, or respond positively. We also know when to stay away from them, tiptoe around their office, and remain invisible until they come out of their funk. We are all human and it’s impossible to expect ... Read more
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Building Your Power Base at Work

Building Your Power Base at Work
There are several factors that determine your power potential at work. These include relevance, visibility, decision-making ability, and power perks. Keep in mind, the goal should be “power to,” not “power over.” Does Your Job Have Relevance? Most of us begin our careers in entry level positions. While that may be expected, don’t assume that an entry level job can’t be relevant, or that an entry level job can’t lead to job progression. Begin by ... Read more
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Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?

Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?
Katie Ledecky just won her fourth gold medal at the Olympics. Before the games, she was asked what her goals were, and she calmly and, with conviction and confidence, said her goal was to win four golds. It didn’t even sound like much of a stretch goal when Ledecky said it, and she seemed to have no trouble achieving what she set out to do. While very few people will ever be Olympians, we each can be more successful in our own lives and in our work environments. Sometimes all it takes ... Read more
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We Can Learn Diversity Tolerance From Millennials

We Can Learn Diversity Tolerance From Millennials
Sometimes when I’m watching a political program such as the Presidential debates or the morning talk shows, I wonder what young people are thinking regarding the tolerance level of our national leaders. It’s not just the big issues like building a wall or banning certain groups from coming to our country. It goes deeper than that. It is a constant pointing out of differences. it may be religion (for example, the “Bernie Sanders is Jewish” email exchange that created ... Read more
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Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career?

Are Self-Imposed Boundaries Imprisoning Your Career?
We are all subject to boundaries of many types—geographic boundaries, legal boundaries, various rules and regulations, and the boundaries of good taste. All of these are essential to a well-functioning society. There are other boundaries, though, that are not essential, nor even useful. Many of these are self-imposed. Think, for a moment, about personal boundaries you have erected for yourself. Do they help or hinder you?  Do they have a positive effect, or are they limiting? Sometimes we ... Read more
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If Change is Coming to your Workplace, Capitalize on It

If Change is Coming to your Workplace, Capitalize on It
We all recognize that organizations are usually resistant to change. They seem to embrace the status quo, and new ways of doing things are discouraged. Yet, business organizations have to adapt to survive. Also, in today’s ever- evolving world, organizational stasis is almost impossible to maintain. To be successful during organizational change, you need to be able to live with uncertainty and to let go of the past. Adaptability is key whether we are looking at an organism or an ... Read more
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Can You Hear What I Hear?

Can You Hear What I Hear?
The first time you heard your recorded voice, you were probably a bit surprised. Perhaps your voice was softer or louder than you expected, or you sounded tentative, or little girl-like, or shrill.  Maybe you spoke rapidly or found that you dropped the “ing” on words. Or you used fillers like “um,” or your accent was more pronounced than you realized? In addition to volume and tone. what you say is as important as how you say it. Since most of us are creatures of ... Read more
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Can Success Be Singular?

Can Success Be Singular?
The Olympics begin soon. They are an exciting example of what athletes can achieve with commitment and years of hard work. We are sometimes awestruck to see a longstanding record broken or when we watch a team or individual recover from what looked like certain defeat. We also might wonder what it feels like to be considered the best in the world as an athlete, to stand on that podium and have the gold medal put around your neck. During the broadcasts, we hear back stories of determination, ... Read more
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