When Mentoring Goes Bad

When Mentoring Goes Bad
You were excited to meet one of the leaders in your field. He said he liked the project you just presented and that the topic was of special interest to him. He gave you his business card and suggested you give him a call next week so you can talk further. You think this might be the big break you have been waiting for—your chance to have the attention and support of a giant who can help you move up that career ladder. You are hoping you have found a mentor. You do call, and he is ... Read more
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Reversing a Bad Decision

Reversing a Bad Decision
We do it all the time-—make a decision and then rethink it. Sometimes, we completely reverse it. Most decisions are personal and small. Will you go to your high school reunion?  Will you join a gym? Will you spend vacation with your parents? Other decisions, such as buying a house or changing jobs, are bigger and can have a bigger impact. In the workplace, decisions carry their own consequences. Each day, you probably make many small decisions, most of them so routine that they are barely ... Read more
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Butter is Good for You and Stress May Be Even Better

Butter is Good for You and Stress May Be Even Better
Butter is one of my favorite foods. Put it on a piece of toast and it becomes my very top food choice. For years, experts made us feel guilty about eating butter. It was a “death” food. Then, last year, it all reversed, and the cover of Time magazine (June 23, 2014) had a headline of “Eat Butter.” The subtitle was “Scientists Labeled Fat the Enemy. Why They Were Wrong.” What wonderful news. No more olive oil or dry toast. It was certainly a day for butter ... Read more
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Thought Pioneer: How to Lead Through Exploration

Thought Pioneer: How to Lead Through Exploration
You’ve all been in the room with a creative thinker. They are the ones known for “thinking outside the box.” In a brainstorming session, they can come up with idea after idea. They are often quick and witty, and you may wish you were more like them. Every organization needs one or two creative thinkers to help other staff think more broadly. Creative thinkers, however, may not be particularly detail oriented. They may not be planners or implementers. These activities ... Read more
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Your Office Needs to Grow Up Too

Your Office Needs to Grow Up Too
When you were a teenager, you probably had a bedroom that reflected your teenage interests. Maybe you had movie and concert posters and pictures of your favorite singer and of all your friends. Your college dorm room may not have been too different. Perhaps you switched to travel posters, playbills from shows you had seen, and memorabilia that related to your college or university. Now you have an office. It might be an 8 by 10 cubicle or a regular office. There may be two desks, or if you ... Read more
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Intern 101

Intern 101
I just had my first week at my summer job, and it was terrible. It seemed like nothing went right. My boss called in sick on my first day and handed off his welcoming duties to a less than welcoming individual, it took me hours of waiting, in a DMV-like environment, to get my corporate ID, and it seemed like every coworker I met had already decided that they didn’t like me. Of course, week one of any internship can be challenging.  You have to deal with all of the paperwork and the details ... Read more
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Feeling Sandwiched?

Feeling Sandwiched?
The term “sandwich generation” was coined many years ago to refer to women who have responsibility for the care of their parents or an elderly relative while they are trying to raise their own children. It’s an apt analogy. When fewer women worked, the task of caring for older family members almost always fell to the daughter, frequently to the one who lived the closest. Today, most women hold jobs and they live further from their relatives, making this situation even more ... Read more
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Wanting and Having it All Can Be Two Different Things

Wanting and Having it All Can Be Two Different Things
We all have dreams for our lives.  Some of them are more realistic than others. When you were little, perhaps you wanted to be a fairy princess and a mom and an astronaut, all at the same time. As you got older, the combinations might have changed, but, generally, you still saw several interconnected roles in your future. Years ago, though, women didn’t have as many choices, and some of those choices used the conjunction “or” rather than “and.” You could be a ... Read more
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The Reality of Microaggression

The Reality of Microaggression
A microaggression is, in theory, a form of unintended discrimination. Many people, including people of color, women, and other underrepresented groups, might argue that microaggressions are sometimes more insidious. The aggressor may truly not know the impact of their words, but sometimes it’s more cunning and manipulative. Microaggressions are often best understood when they are perpetrated against people of color because it happens so often. These include when someone is asked where they ... Read more
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Leadership Lessons From Birds

Leadership Lessons From Birds
Recently, prompted by robins arriving on our front lawn, I was thinking about the folklore and sayings that are related to birds. We talk about feathering our nests and taking a bird’s eye view. Then there are sayings from our grandparents that remain with us–sayings like,”The early bird gets the worm,” or, “Birds of a feather stick together.” Sayings like these sound trite, but  the following are some take-away lessons that might be thought provoking ... Read more
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