Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.

Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.
Every year you set out a master work plan for changing your life in the next twelve months. You title this plan “New Year’s Resolutions.” The plan is ambitious, detailed,  comprehensive, and impossible. Within a week or a month, it has been abandoned. Nothing has really changed. You file it away for next January 1. Instead of going through the same motions this year, why not develop a series of 12 mini goals, goals that are practical and achievable?  For example, you know ... Read more
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Keeping Perspective When Things Go Wrong

Keeping Perspective When Things Go Wrong
Recently, while driving past a motel that is used to temporarily house low-income families, I noticed a small wreath that had been hung on the door of one of the units. It stood out because it was a bright spot on such a dull structure. I couldn’t help but wonder who had put it there. A mother trying to make the place  more cheerful for her children over the holidays?  A widow who came across a box of old decorations?  A single person trying to keep his spirits up? The image and the ... Read more
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How Do You Work with the Office Tweaker?

How Do You Work with the Office Tweaker?
You probably know someone who can never let well enough alone, who always has a way to do something better or differently or more? These individuals drive friends, family, and coworkers crazy because their projects and plans never quite get finished. They are continually tweaking things. Tweakers struggle with minutiae. For them, the big picture gets eclipsed by the details, and instead of controlling the project, they get stuck trying to control relatively unimportant tasks. These are the ... Read more
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Management Perks and Pitfalls

Management Perks and Pitfalls
Management looks easy. You have a staff. You make assignments and tell others what to do. You make more money. You get credit for all that your direct reports accomplish. If that sounds too good to be true, it is. A promotion to management requires some additional–perhaps new–skills. Most important among them are leadership and supervisory skills. For every perk of management, there is a accompanying pitfall. For example, your salary might be higher, but you also have increased ... Read more
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Don’t Wait for Inspiration

Don’t Wait for Inspiration
A writer who waits for ideal conditions under which to work will die without putting a word on paper. –E.B. White The most prolific artists, writers, and otherwise productive workers do not wait for inspiration in order to begin their work. They simply begin. They may adhere to a schedule they’ve set for themselves to sit down and paint, practice, or put pen to paper. They may reward themselves once they’ve reached specific goals. They often set boundaries with friends and families and ... Read more
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Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?

Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?
You’re a networking whiz. You have “likes” and followers galore—Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, even Pinterest. Everyone knows you, everyone that is except for colleagues throughout your organization or professional field. You remember them. They are the ones who identify the up-and-coming talent, and who make decisions about promotions and opportunities for growth and advancement. They don’t spend their time trolling the web or evaluating personal posts of ... Read more
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Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak

Reading Through the Lines of Corporate Speak
You are sitting in an all staff meeting. You know business has been slow, and you are worried about your job. The CEO begins ok, but them he starts talking about the need for furloughs. Each staff will have to take two weeks of unpaid leave. He emphasizes that you will have flexibility in “choosing your time off.” He makes it sound like a vacation. He doesn’t apologize or acknowledge that you are giving up a half month’s salary. You are happy you still have a job, ... Read more
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I’m Really an Imposter

I’m Really an Imposter
Scenario One The boss asks you to attend a meeting in her place. At first, you were pleased, but as the meeting room fills up, you realize that you are the youngest and least experienced person there. You’re an impostor. Scenario Two You spent years finishing your professional degree as a therapist. You landed the agency job you wanted, and now you are sitting across from a very troubled client. All of a sudden, you have that nagging thought that you’re not qualified to be a ... Read more
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Should You Care More Than Your Boss?

Should You Care More Than Your Boss?
You’ve been in your job for awhile and you have a pretty good understanding of how things work and when the office is the busiest. Your new boss has only been there a few weeks and seems to be fairly low key. While you admire her approach, you are concerned about several looming deadlines for projects. For instance, the renewal for your agency’s primary grant funding is due next month. You know how important that is and how much time and energy it takes to complete it on time. ... Read more
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Do You Really Know Yourself?

Do You Really Know Yourself?
To slightly paraphrase psychologist William James (1890), “Woman has as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize her and carry an image of her in their mind.” Does that mean that our social selves differ from our “real” selves? If so, how different are they? We tend to think that when it comes to ourselves, we are experts, that we know how we will respond to a topic or react to a situation. We also believe we have some sort of “inner eye” ... Read more
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