Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?

Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?
Do you have a different personality at work than you have when you are at home?  Would your work colleagues fail to recognize you on weekends? I don’t simply mean what you wear or a lack of make-up, but are you nicer, more fun, calmer, or more energetic on Saturdays and Sundays? If so, why can’t you carry those positive weekend personality traits over into the work week? What causes you to transform from the real you to the work you, to slip into your work persona, every Monday? ... Read more
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Managing Everyday Problems

Managing Everyday Problems
In health care, there is a concept called “Activities of Daily Living.” It’s a measure of whether someone is capable of self care and includes activities such as bathing, dressing and eating meals. On patient charts, this is abbreviated as ADLs. Perhaps a similar concept is appropriate for managing “problems in living” or PDLs. We all have them, and many problems we face are unexpected—things like a flat tire or car trouble, sickness requiring high co-pays for ... Read more
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Workplace Adulthood

Workplace Adulthood
There are many old sayings about indicators of adult behavior:  taking responsibility for your actions (or inactions), pulling your own weight at home and work, being able to carry money (or a debit card in today’s world) without spending it, or giving back to your community. Your family probably had other phrases that you heard over and over again as you grew up. Without realizing it, you more than likely internalized many of them, and they helped form your character. Now you have a ... Read more
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Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.

Forget Resolutions. Look for Mini Goals.
Every year you set out a master work plan for changing your life in the next twelve months. You title this plan “New Year’s Resolutions.” The plan is ambitious, detailed,  comprehensive, and impossible. Within a week or a month, it has been abandoned. Nothing has really changed. You file it away for next January 1. Instead of going through the same motions this year, why not develop a series of 12 mini goals, goals that are practical and achievable?  For example, you know ... Read more
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Keeping Perspective When Things Go Wrong

Keeping Perspective When Things Go Wrong
Recently, while driving past a motel that is used to temporarily house low-income families, I noticed a small wreath that had been hung on the door of one of the units. It stood out because it was a bright spot on such a dull structure. I couldn’t help but wonder who had put it there. A mother trying to make the place  more cheerful for her children over the holidays?  A widow who came across a box of old decorations?  A single person trying to keep his spirits up? The image and the ... Read more
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Your Job is Hard Enough

Your Job is Hard Enough
Almost every office has an informal caretaker. I don’t mean the evening cleaning service or the executive assistant who manages the work life of the boss. What I am referring to is the person (most likely a woman) who oversees non-work issues and activities. This person may volunteer to bake or bring in refreshments for office celebrations. She may organize purchasing gifts, hanging decorations, and being certain everyone else has a good time. If someone misses the party, you can be ... Read more
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Being Called “Young Lady” is Not a Compliment

Being Called “Young Lady” is Not a Compliment
Recently, while trying to make a point, a male newscaster referred to his female counterpart as “young lady.” While used in a joking tone, it sounded like a verbal pat on the head, a condescension, a sexist put down. It gave the impression that he knew what he was talking about, but he had to tolerate her input, however misinformed it was. The following day a man at my bank held the door for an older woman. He said, “Come right in, young lady,” despite the obvious ... Read more
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Silencing Women in the Workplace

Silencing Women in the Workplace
We all know the importance of speaking up when we witness injustice, bullying, or unfairness. We also know the importance of being a valued member of a work team and contributing our ideas and efforts. Both are easier said than done, the second especially difficult when a woman works in a male-dominated setting. A certain type of sexism based on credibility seems to begin in the classroom. In grade school, little girls are anxious to raise their hands and participate. As they get into ... Read more
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Don’t Let Success be a Stumbling Block

Don’t Let Success be a Stumbling Block
You’ve been working on a big project for months. Despite setbacks, surprises, and some staff turnover, you are finally done. You know it’s a success. Even the big boss has acknowledged your efforts, and numerous coworkers have congratulated you. You feel like you’ve done double duty for months, and you can’t wait for things to return to the pre-project level. You take a week off and when you come back, people seem to have forgotten that you were the workplace hero ... Read more
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Do You Know When to Quit?

Do You Know When to Quit?
How often have you stayed with a project or activity or relationship too long? Perhaps there came a point when you knew it was going to fail, but you hung on anyway for a variety of reasons. You may have had time, emotional energy, or money invested. Perhaps you simply hate to fail at anything or to admit that you are wrong. Maybe the consequences of stopping seemed greater than the cost of continuing. The concept of “fail fast” is popular in the business environment. When ... Read more
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