We are Always Judging and Being Judged

We are Always Judging and Being Judged
We judge people every time we meet them, every moment we are with them. And you are judged in return.  Sometimes our judgments are faulty. Think of a recent example when you misjudged someone. How did it happen. Did you make a quick appraisal—based on your first impression—that they were arrogant, frivolous, not very smart, unsophisticated, inexperienced, or lacking in understanding about a situation? Or did you rely on the previous opinions or labels from others, on what you had heard ... Read more
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The Role of Hope in the Workplace

The Role of Hope in the Workplace
Think how often you hear the word “hope” at work—I hope we win that contract. I hope we get bonuses this year. I hope the boss is pleased. Or, more negatively, that old adage, hope is not a strategy.  Hope may not be a strategy; it is actually much more. Some people equate hope with wishing, but wishing lacks the critical components of hope. The Greek origin of the word “hope” means confident expectation, not merely wishing. The distinguishing factors of hope are a ... Read more
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Don’t Create Your Own Unhappiness in the New Year

Don’t Create Your Own Unhappiness in the New Year
How are you beginning your New Year? Are you energized, forward-looking, and excited? Do you have plans and goals and new ideas? Or are you dragging yourself into 2018 still glancing backward, filled with negative thoughts or regrets, perhaps even feeling some dread? Does it matter? You don’t really have any control, do you? You’ve heard all of the clichés—what you send out into the universe is what comes back; God helps those who help themselves; People are just about as happy ... Read more
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Power and Sexual Misconduct

Power and Sexual Misconduct
Today the media is filled with pundits talking about sexual misconduct. Examples drawn from Capitol Hill include Roy Moore (Senate candidate from Alabama), Al Franken (Senator from Minnesota), past Presidents Bill Clinton and George H. W. Bush, and current President Donald Trump. Former Congressman Anthony Weiner recently started a 21-month prison sentence for sexting with a minor. We also watched Fox News terminate CEO Roger Ailes and political commentator Bill O’Reilly for their ... Read more
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Your To-Do List May Be Holding You Back

Your To-Do List May Be Holding You Back
Do you keep a list? Is it on your cell phone, or laptop, or perhaps, even on paper? Do you update it on a daily or weekly (or hourly) basis? Are there categories such as long term and short term goals?  Do you divide it by work projects, social engagements, and personal items, or is it all jumbled together? Do you love crossing things off your list, or do you just put things on your list and forget about them? Importantly, is your list functional and useful, or does it make you more and ... Read more
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Tell Me About Your Health Insurance

Tell Me About Your Health Insurance
You have just been offered a new job. You ask about the salary, the probation period, and vacation time. The human resources representative mentions there is also  a health insurance plan, but you are young and healthy, and it doesn’t seem nearly as important as the other benefits. Aren’t most health plans fairly alike any way? Actually, no. Health plans are quite variable. As someone prominent said quite recently, “Who knew health insurance was so complex?” You may ... Read more
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Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?

Are You Tired of Shape Shifting at Work?
Do you have a different personality at work than you have when you are at home?  Would your work colleagues fail to recognize you on weekends? I don’t simply mean what you wear or a lack of make-up, but are you nicer, more fun, calmer, or more energetic on Saturdays and Sundays? If so, why can’t you carry those positive weekend personality traits over into the work week? What causes you to transform from the real you to the work you, to slip into your work persona, every Monday? ... Read more
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Are You Really Asking for Feedback?

Are You Really Asking for Feedback?
One of the criticisms that we hear repeatedly is that the millennial generation wants constant feedback. Frequently, an accompanying statement is that they can’t handle criticism. So what are they really looking for? Praise? Direction? Attention? Mentoring? Access? Clarity? Context? Validation? All of these? Something else? While generalizing about any group is always dangerous, are there some commonalities that can be identified? We know that those in the younger workforce tend to be ... Read more
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Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?

Is Face-to-Face Networking Really Necessary?
You’re a networking whiz. You have “likes” and followers galore—Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, even Pinterest. Everyone knows you, everyone that is except for colleagues throughout your organization or professional field. You remember them. They are the ones who identify the up-and-coming talent, and who make decisions about promotions and opportunities for growth and advancement. They don’t spend their time trolling the web or evaluating personal posts of ... Read more
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Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?

Isn’t It Time You Set Some Real Goals?
Katie Ledecky just won her fourth gold medal at the Olympics. Before the games, she was asked what her goals were, and she calmly and, with conviction and confidence, said her goal was to win four golds. It didn’t even sound like much of a stretch goal when Ledecky said it, and she seemed to have no trouble achieving what she set out to do. While very few people will ever be Olympians, we each can be more successful in our own lives and in our work environments. Sometimes all it takes ... Read more
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